Don’t Look Back

24 04 2009

As we focus on each of us getting to our very own “For Such a Time As This” moment (Esther 4:14) there are 6 targets (see Our Theme for 2009  tab above for more information on all 6) that will have us move in this direction.  Here we start our look at Target 2 –      “Don’t Stay Stuck”.


It is so easy in life to travel toward our future looking through the glasses of our past.  This happens when we allow our past to hold us in the same place, thinking that everyone or everything will be just like the thing that happened years ago or it can be as simple as something that just happened this morning that has stolen our joy. In this section of our MAXIMIZE Moment, we must challenge ourselves to take off those glasses from the past, to not look back and make a different choice for ourselves….


“You are not responsible for what has happened but

for what you make of it.

–Sidney Poitier

from his book “Measure of a Man”


This is where we release any baggage, what someone did, bad attitudes or habits that are holding us back.  It is when we let go of the past and be present in today that we can really take hold of our journey!  So to stand in the present would mean the past does not control our lives?  Let me share a story out of the Bible in the book of Genesis the 19th chapter that may help us understand this further;



…so the angel told Lot, “You and your family must leave this place. God is about to destroy it!”  …Early the next morning, in the pale light before the sun had risen, the angels said to Lot, “Hurry! Take your wife and your two daughters and leave this place, or you will die with everyone else!” But Lot was so afraid he couldn’t move. So the angels grabbed him by the hand, and they grabbed the hands of his wife and of his two daughters, and they led them out of the city. As soon as they were safely out of the city, one of the angels said, “Flee for your lives! Don’t look back, and don’t stop anywhere in the plain! Flee to the mountains or you will be swept away!”
And then God rained fire onto the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah.
Thick, black smoke filled the air like smoke from a fiery furnace.
But Lot’s wife looked back – even though the angels warned her not to – and she was turned into a pillar of salt.”


The important take away here is…..


“But Lot’s wife looked back, and she was turned into a pillar of salt.”

Gen 19:26 (NKJ)


The main point I make here is that we each have a choice; a choice to look forward and move toward our purpose or to look back and be hindered by our past.  In essence when we allow ourselves to look back, we stay stuck in a holding pattern because how can you move forward while you are looking back?  Just think about that or actually stand up right now where you are and try and do it.  Now of course if you are in a familiar room you would be OK as you know what is all around you, but when you are trying to move forward in a new place, your surroundings are not familiar and if you look back while you move or drive forward, I guarantee you that you WILL run directly into something.  Something that will hinder your progression. This is definitely what I am talking about when I say we Don’t Stay Stuck because just like Lot’s wife if we stay stuck looking back instead of focusing on our goal, our future of hope and possibility, it will be virtually impossible to move ANYWHERE.  For in looking back we stay stuck in where we are and we never make it to where we can go.  The overwhelming thing I hope we all learn from this focus on not staying stuck is…,

“God wants to bring you through, to bring you out even better and to restore everything you have lost, plus more!”

-Joel Osteen


So what is that is holding you back? Is it something someone did to you, something someone said?  Is it something that was done years ago or something that happened this morning that has hurt you or made you mad?  Is it that bad relationship that you are still hurting over?  Is it that you are settling for how you are as your mom is like this and now I am this way too?  Is it that woman that used to be your best friend and now is a member of the hateration club, she talks about you behind your back and now you have a grudge and anytime you hear her name or see her face you get angry all over again?   Is it that relative who died and you are still grieving years later? Or you are still arguing with family members over their belongings?  Or is that you never knew your dad and now you have a bad relationship with men?  Whatever it may be, this person, place or thing has stolen your joy and now it is time to take it back! Now ladies don’t think, “oh none of those apply to me so I am in no way stuck.”  We all have the propensity to be stuck or to get stuck; the focus here is to find that one person, place or thing that has the power to do that in your life as we learn over the next few weeks how we Don’t Stay Stuck!


One day at a time–this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.” – Unknown


The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.” – Barabra DeAngelis




One response

26 04 2009
Jeanette Conrad-Ellis

Love it! Several months ago, our pastor Rev. Dr. Ozzie Smith (Senior Pastor at Covenant United Church of Christ) preached a sermon on not looking back and reminded us that our windshield is 20 times larger than our rearview mirror so that we can focus on moving forward. Just this week, I had to remind myself that the enemy (aka my hateration nation) is the voice reminding me of hiccups and past drama. Romans 8:1 …There is no condemnation in Christ!

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