Shhh….Did You Hear That?

2 07 2009

In continuing the conversation from last week, the important thing to do as you begin to get to know someone is to actually listen. We all hear about it, relationships that are falling apart because one of the individuals in the relationship does not feel heard. Thousands of relationships break up due to the lack of one thing…… the ability to listen. Or how about those who end up being in a relationship with someone and then realize over time that they barely know this person.  Well the basis of this lack of knowledge is because at some point they did not listen. They did not listen to what the person was saying not just in words they were speaking but also in actions they were doing. One of my favorite sayings is…

“When people show you who they are, believe them.” – Oprah

It amazes me how we get an inner urge about someone and we ignore it. Ya know what you really are doing in any relationship is listening. You are listening to a person’s heart for out of the heart, actions speak.  To listen it involves two things; hearing, and understanding. HEARING is what we really focused on last week. To hear is to really take in and/or grasp what the person is saying, doing and being. It is knowing what they mean by the words they speak while also hearing all of their actions and deeds that are actually their words made flesh. Next is UNDERSTANDING. Now this is when you take what you have heard and you really figure out what it means in order to understand who this person is. It is when you understand how someone thinks that you can then understand the way they tick, and have insight as to why they do what they do, etc…. Why is this so important?  Well let’s go a little deeper and look at the 2 parts of this word – ‘under’ and ‘stand’ ….. Under – when I think of under, I think of looking beyond what is on the surface, to dig down beneath the covering.  Stand – when I think of stand, I think of holding or maintaining a certain position. So the 2 words together would mean that we need to look beyond the surface to see a person’s stance in life which comes out of their heart and out of the heart comes all of our inner most values. So it is looking beyond the surface to TRULY comprehend why they think and act as they do that you TRULY begin to understand this person. You must seek this clarity, so that you are clear on who this person is and how they think, move and have their being. This need to hear and understand only truly can come when you listen. Listen to what you are hearing your heart say to you as you explore the words and thoughts that are coming out of their lives. Listening is an active process where you take all of the information that is coming your way and explore what this all means in relation to who this person is.

Well this need to listen is critical not just in learning and growing in any relationship but is definitely important as we build our relationship with God. It is listening as you hear, story after story, as you hear sermon after sermon. It is digging deeper to really understand how God works, moves and has HIS being…that will begin to help you form a relationship. As you discover God by digging deeper to explore who He is so that we each begin to form our own relationship with the Almighty.

It is this place of relationship that our theme character for the year, Ms. Esther found herself in. You see when Esther heard the news that her husband’s right hand man wanted to kill all of the Jews, her people, she fasted and prayed for 3 days. She fasted and prayed to sit and listen to God to be clear on what to do. She knew she needed to sit still in the presence of God based on what God had done in her life in the past and she knew this based on building a relationship with the Almighty. So while we each are from various backgrounds, ages and stages in life, and as each of our life experiences differ so this means that my relationship with God will not be the same as your relationship. My testimonies will differ from yours as we each build a base on which to build our own faith, our own relationship. It is our life experience that have made us each who we are and it is this space of difference that makes each of us have our own special relationship with God. It is in the place of seeking God for ourselves and looking at Him through our own lenses that will allow us to understand Him for ourselves and begin to understand how to focus on faith.

So as you explore who God is for yourself, stop and ask yourself…shhh…did you hear that and listen to God speak to your soul. And if you are still trying to figure out why this focus on faith….here is one of my favorite songs by Mary Mary called “It’s the God in Me” ya know the saying…you begin to act like the folks you hang around with, so imagine who you might be if ya just chilled with God for a while 🙂 ….enjoy!!!!–3qYvi/mary-mary-god-in-me-ft-kierra-sheard/

Also, as we continue to explore this first area of communication and this need to listen, here are a few quotes (as usual) to help in this endeavor…

“We look upon prayer as a means of getting things for ourselves; The Bible’s idea of prayer is that we may get to know God Himself.” – Oswald Chambers

“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing; a creative force. When we really listen to people there is an alternating current and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other. We are constantly being re-created.” – Brenda Ueland

“Listen and attend with the ear of your heart.” –Saint Benedict

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and to be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” – Ralph Nicholas




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