What’s Love Got to Do with It?

12 02 2010

As each of us focuses on making “A String of Pearls” a look at the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) there are 9 pearls that we will focus on cultivating and growing in 2010.  (See our Theme for 2010 tab above for more information on all 9) Here we start our look at our last, Pearl 1 – “LOVE”


Today begins what we call Valentine’s Day weekend.  You know our national, annual time to celebrate love.  A time when we all are wondering what will we get, what will we give, where will we go, what will we do?  All of the hustle and bustle and focus to prepare and celebrate really does take the focus off of LOVE and it sometimes makes me wonder, What’s Love Got to Do with It?

  You see love is not in what you get as a gift, but is spoken in actions done every day.  Just check out all of these words that describe emotions that turn into action and illustrate God’s definition of what love is.

  “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” – I Corinthians 13: 4-7

  So often we focus on all the wrong things when we think of LOVE.  We think of it as a feeling but it really is an action that is enacted based on a feeling.   Think about it….what acts do you think constitute love?  How about when you are having a bad day and you call that girlfriend that may be busy but she stops what she is doing because you need her and she listens and knows just the right words to say to make you feel better.   Or how about that parent that although you have lost yet another job, they still believe in you!!!  No matter what! Or that husband, significant other, boyfriend that can’t cook a lick, but brings you soup when you are not feeling well.   He may not have made it, but he found somewhere to buy it just because he wanted you to feel better.  Or would love be in acts like… the partner that beats you?  The friend that talks about you behind your back?  Or the mother that is so focused on her man that she forgets to mother her child….or the mother in the movie “Precious” for that matter.  Is that love?  These 2 very different sets of examples are emotions that are enacted in the flesh and become the outward expression of what love is or isn’t. The negative emotions are the ones that REALLY make me say… What’s Love Got to Do with it? However so many of us have such an inaccurate definition of what love is that we sometimes think those negative actions or behaviors are done out of love….is that the case?  Could that be true?    Stop and think for a moment…how do you define love?

If you were to ask me to define LOVE, I would say that it is the deal sealer of any relationship as it bonds people together with a link of trust, devotion and intimacy.  LOVE DOES NOT HURT!!!!  Instead, love is a place you find comfort, safety, security, support, console and a place to lay your head. Love accepts you, flaws and all.  Love is also not connected to what you may buy as a gift this weekend, think of this, if you lost your job, you may not be able to give a gift, but you can make a gift. That gesture of expression to me would speak volumes of what LOVE is.  It is in the small acts that people do out of that link, the connection, the bond of trust, devotion and intimacy that gives a voice to the feeling we call LOVE.

Now this weekend’s celebration may be focused on romantic or Eros love but that ain’t all that love is.  Yes love occurs between a man and a woman but it also occurs between mother to child, sister to sister or brother, friend to friend etc….. This would be Agape love which is a gentle, caring, giving type of love; sisterly or brotherly love.   If you think of it, the emotion of love it’s self is the same for all those you love, as you basically just want this other person that you love to be happy, you accept them as they are, and you appreciate them for who they are. So yes you still love them when they are getting on your last nerve, why…because love is not based on condition.   It is in how love is expressed that makes Eros and Agape and all the other types of love so different.  It may mean an ear to listen to a girlfriends call; it may be showing up and being attentive to watch your child, niece or nephew at a recital or basketball game.  It may be giving your undivided attention to your parent or grandmother, especially when you don’t feel like it.  It may be touching or holding hands with your mate.  The expression may be different for each person in your life but the feeling that is expressed through action is LOVE.  What’s Love Got to Do with it?  Well as we delve into love over the next few weeks. Think about how you give love in actions you do on a daily basis and how is it given to you?  No, it is not simply in gifts your buy or gifts you receive.  Which actually makes me think of a saying my mother used to always say to me, “it’s the thought that counts” so it is not the gift itself, it is that someone cared enough to give you an outward expression of their love for you.  It is not how much they spent but in the love that was given when they paid attention to what you like and went out of their way to find it.  What’s Love Got to Do With It?  It has to do with the actions that we do for one another that speak appreciation and care on a daily basis.


Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed.” – John Tarrant


“Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale… Love loves; this is its nature.” – Howard Thurman


“Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.” – Nicholas Sparks




One response

19 02 2010

Okay, without reading every word you typed… just the scripture alone made my jaw drop! I’ve been IN Galatians 5 & 6 (both chapters) for the last 5-6 months! I started with 6:9 and just read again 5:22 to stay focus! RIGHT TONE Lady!

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