And the Greatest of These is….

11 03 2010

Since Valentine’s Day weekend, we have been exploring love; what it is, how to get it and how to give it.  As this is our last week to explore this thing called love, I began to ponder how to sum up this portion of our conversation.  As I did so, my thoughts turned to the lyrics from a song called, “No Charge”

 For the nine months I carried you growin’ inside me, no charge
For the nights I’ve sat up with you
Doctored you, and prayed for you, no charge
For the time and the tears
That you’ve cost through the years, there’s no charge
And when you add it all up
The full cost of my love is no charge.

And when you add it all up
The full cost of my love is, no charge.”

For the nights filled with dread
And all the worries ahead, no charge
For advice and the knowledge
And the cost of your college, no charge
For the toys, food and clothes and even for wipin’ your nose
There’s no charge, son

Love does not cost, it does not hurt and it should not be hard.  It should not ask for anything in return or give you only certain things when you behave in certain ways.   It is not only there in the wonderful but is there through the hard times too…..ya know like when ya lost your job and the lights are getting ready to get shut off, yes ya still love then too. It just may be a little harder, but you know that this too shall pass.  The sum of all we discussed really does lead me to believe that Love is a gift.  A gift  that you MUST give to yourself first.  Love is fully developed  once you appreciate who you are and what you CAN do.  Then it is only after you love yourself that you can then give this gift of love to others you respect, admire, adore, are devoted to, ya know the folks that have your back and you have theirs.    As I continue to think about it, the end of 1 Corinthians chapter 13, the LOVE chapter says… And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”  Love IS GREAT!!  Ya just got to have it in your life.  It is the butter that goes on the toast, the cinnamon that goes on the roll.  It makes everything just that much better.    Even Jesus pretty much told us that we needed to have it and give it when He said,

 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.” –  John 13:34

Even further we all have heard the saying, “God is Love” and if we are aiming to be women after God’s own heart than we MUST live in LOVE.  Giving it which then acts like a boomerang as what we give out, comes back to us.  So if someone says, I hate this person or that person, than that is what will come back to you.   You may not like everyone but you should still treat them with that brotherly or sisterly love because….

“If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?”  – 1 John 4:20

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can love God and at the same time live with hate in your heart because think about it, you are pretty much hating something that God created.  I actually think it takes so much energy to hate yourself as well as other people.  On the opposite end of the spectrum, to love allows you to live in such a happy place.  If you think about it love is the one common factor we look for in any relationship!  We look for this in good mothers and fathers, in great friends and mates.   LOVE is a fruit that you should definitely know when you see it and we all should work toward making it a goal that it is seen in our lives.  When love is flourishing in your life it then it links with the topic we shall begin next week….JOY.  So it is this LOVE walk that is like a bookend on the shelf and as we begin to look at the other pearls, you will see that you need love to partner with just about every other pearl in order to make it work.  It’s almost like an egg, how can you have an egg without the yoke and the white outer layer.  Love would be that white outer layer that surrounds all else. 

So ladies, I say, love is the best thing to make sure you have in your life as it helps you to feel good and that feeling enables you to and pursue your highest self.  We pursue so many things in life…the right job, right house, right man etc…why not focus on love which will boomerang those wonderful things you desire to you!   So while we hope to find joy in the right job, right house or neighborhood, right man, etc… it is not these things that bring us the happiness we desire.  However, when we put our time and energy into love it can only come back to us and bring all that is good and happy!  So my question to you is do you love yourself?  Are you freely giving love to others?  Why or why not?  What is stopping you?  What is limiting you?  Whatever is blocking you from being free to love; it will also block you from your FULL potential.  It will stop you from becoming the woman you were destined to be.  It will keep you from fully developing all the pearls we shall place on our string this year.  So take a second and get your love walk in order so that you can successfully pursue becoming the woman God has ordained you to be.

 “Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it.  Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it.  Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.” – Martin Luther King

 “The most beautiful things in the world are not seen nor touched. They are felt with the heart.”- Helen Keller

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” – Oprah Winfrey




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