Kill Them With Kindness

22 07 2010

When I was much younger,  mad at something and trying to coming up with some way to get them back, I remember my mom’s answer would always be to kill them with kindness.    What would I say to that?  “What!!!!!  That ain’t getting them back for what they did??!!!”   But actually when you are nice to someone despite how they treated you, that is the ultimate payback, retribution and vengeance for the hurt or anger you feel.   It is the ultimate way to settle the score as when you are kind you actually show that person like MC Hammer used to say “you can’t touch this!”.   Instead you are rising above the situation, just like that Eagle we talked about in our blog last year.  You see an eagle is a bird that surpasses all others as they fly to heights so great that they exceed every other bird.  Webster’s dictionary describes an eagle as “a bird noted for their strength, size, keenness of vision, and powers of flight.”  So if we approach this need for pay back like a eagle, we kill them with kindness by mounting up with wings like eagles and soaring above it.  When we can focus on being kind and keeping a positive attitude, this means we are soaring on our wings like an eagle.  If we can trust that all that we are going through at any given time is for purpose, than we can Be an Eagle and soar to great heights. 

Think about it, if we each are an eagle, then we don’t allow the pigeons and chickens to get to us as we fly to greater heights –  translation – when the haters, hate on you, you don’t allow it to affect you, you rise above it and hold your head up high.  If we are each an eagle we SOAR, we ascend to a higher or more exalted level  – translation – your attitude depicts your altitude so the more positive you are the higher the altitude which means that you are operating on  a more exalted level.  Allowing that anger or hurt feeling to keep you in a  negative place or allowing yourself to have a negative demeanor, attitude etc… just keeps you on the ground, not able to SOAR to great heights or to really fly at all let alone as high as you can possibly fly. It means you are that crab in the barrel (ya know that old saying) and you are keeping yourself down never to rise above!   So pretty much killing them with kindness is like turning the other cheek.  It is like loving your enemy; it is allowing divine justice to take place as we know….

Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” says the Lord – Romans 12:19, NKJV

 “God is just: He will pay back trouble to those who trouble you”  – 2 Thessalonians 1:6

 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.  Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.   “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.  For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?  And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” – Matthew 5:38-48

What I think that last bible verse is trying to say is kill your haters with kindness. Knowing these things, we can smile in the face of adversity and not allow anyone or anything to get us down; instead we can choose to kill them with kindness.   So how do we get to this place of kindness?

  1. Live knowing that only YOU own the key to your happiness.  That way, despite the situation you can make a choice to be happy.
  2. Trust that God has a better repayment plan for your hater than you ever could imagine.  You may not see it happen but you must trust that God is in control and it will get handled.
  3. Don’t focus on the situation.  Focus on the blessings that will come your way by choosing to be kind especially when it is the hardest thing to do.
  4. Keep a smile on your face.  Just doing this will help you to be kind, just carrying a smile can help you find ways to act out that happy feeling.

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to step back from the situation and let go, that is the greatest act of surrendering it over to God and letting Him handle it.  My favorite thing to say is “Sick ‘em Lord!!!”  I have to say this over and over again sometimes when I sure ain’t feeling like being nice to folk but I can tell you stories of how being kind has resulted in my enemies definitely ending up as my footstool. Me being the victor in any situation definitely happens in the absolute best way when I call killing them with kindness!   Just like another saying my momma used to say and you may have heard this one too, “you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar”.

“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate” – Albert Schweizer

 “Kindness is loving people more than they deserve.” – Joseph Joubert

 “You can accomplish by kindness what you cannot by force.” – Publius Cornelius Tacit

 “Why give in to rudeness, when you can fight back with kindness.” – Donna A. Favor

 “Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair but manifestations of strength and resolution.” – Kahlil Gibran



2 responses

22 07 2010

Great message this week! Keep them coming.

2 08 2010

thanks for this, I really needed it and will repost in my notes…. I need to act more like the Eagle that I know I am.. Again thank you!

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