Humility before Honor

15 10 2010

This whole talk about gentleness really comes down to learning the keys to being humble.  Every day we see others trying to get ahead at work or in life by trying to make themselves look good and stepping on others while they do so.  However when you are humble you do things without looking for what’s in it for you, yes you disregard personal gain.    If you stop for a moment and really think about it,  focusing all on you really doesn’t do anything for you at all as;

 “Pride goes before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” – Proverbs 16:18

In other words if you are too confident, something usually happens to show you that you are not all that. We all have seen it, someone so full of pride that no one can tell them anything.  So much so that they don’t listen or they try and take all the credit for something and they end up making a fool of themselves.  It is that pride, arrogance, conceit, self-importance and unwillingness to compromise or work together that causes chaos and/or destruction in any situation that is lead by ego.   You know when you see every indication not to do something but you are too full of pride to say oh I should not do that or that I messed up, it is often due to the refusal to admit we are or have been wrong that results in an unnecessary loss in some way. Shoot, even God does not want to be bothered with those full of themselves.

 “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” – James 4:6

Since I know that God knows all things about us, I also know He can see right through that over emphasis on ME to see what hides behind that pride, a feeling of lack.  I believe that when we have a over emphasis on ME,  on self that we are really covering up our lack of self esteem, our feelings of not being good enough, smart enough, worthy.  However, if we take our emphasis of self just long enough; we can learn to appreciate all that is around us and that in turn will give you a greater appreciation for your own gifts and the one who gifted you.  You see if get to know the creator who made you, in so doing you begin to appreciate the gift He has made inside of YOU.  This is how you REALLY begin to know who you are and your self esteem grows.  However when you don’t know who you are, that is the place that any small thing you are good at begins to build ego just like a gremlin.  You remember that movie back in the day?  If you put a little water on one gremlin it would grow and grow, and grow into more little gremlin’s.  Well in that same spirit, when you don’t like yourself, you begin to focus on that one thing you may be good at and it grows like a gremlin and harvests pride.  Instead when you realize that no one is perfect, you can take away putting too much faith and importance on your accomplishments.  Because when you focus on what you have or what you can do instead of who you are,  we take away the thing we should be most proud of, how we are making a difference and how God has giving us blessings to share one with another.  A humble person is someone who does not boast or try to impress themselves or others.

 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. – Colossians 3:12

 So how do we master being humble?

1 – Make others feel appreciated – remember that people do not accomplish anything on their own, so make sure you take a moment to make people feel appreciated for how they have made a contribution to your life, your project at work etc…  With that said – I want to take this moment to actually thank you all for reading my weekly blog, your support and replies, keep me going week to week 🙂

2 – Redirect Praise – If you can take the praise someone gives to you and redirect it to someone that has helped you, taught you, mentored you, you pass on the praise to others.  Remember it is not ALL about YOU so take a moment to remember the folks that have helped you get where you are.

3- Don’t Be First, Don’t Be Right – when you are humble you know it is not all about you and do you don’t try to make yourself look better or smarter than anyone else.  For if you know who you are then you also know that you don’t have to fight to show it.  Who you are shines through without you stepping on someone else to do so.  Keep in mind that when you try to prove yourself right, or say something like “I know”, you are showing dominance over the other person. Even if you know something already, simple say, “Interesting, thank you for sharing or something like that.  Keep in mind you never want to make someone feel less than.  Since those that are humble are secure, it is this security in self that makes them strong.  A humble person has absolutely nothing to prove and therefore they don’t have to flaunt their stuff and dominate others.  Humility leads to gentleness, meekness and as we discussed a few weeks ago, meekness is not weakness, it is strength under control, power used to build up rather others rather than tear them down.  Think about it, what we are most proud of are the things we give the most attention to.  With that in mind, the question to ponder for this week is what are you most proud of?  What do you give the most attention to?  Yourself or how you humbly give so that others may be lifted up?

 “Humility does not mean thinking less of yourself than of other people, nor does it mean having a low opinion of your own gifts.  It means freedom from thinking about yourself at all.”  ~William Temple

 “Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. “ ~Malcolm S. Forbes

“Blushing is the color of virtue.”  ~Diogenes

 “Nobody stands taller than those willing to stand corrected.”  ~William Safire




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