Be Careful Not To Judge!

21 10 2010

Over the last few weeks I have used the terms meekness, gentleness and being humble interchangeably as we have been discussing gentleness for this part of our blog discussions. This week please allow me to tell you how all 3 words relate one to the other. You see being meek focuses on who you are internally as this comes forth through your heart and becomes gentleness which refers to our actions and humbleness is what is produced by those outside actions when we are able to think of others and let go of ego.  All 3 together really do go hand in hand. As a matter of fact, one of the most important aspects of learning to master the 3 is learning to live without judging others. You see as we grow personally, we all have a tendency to feel like we know something that others don’t know, however a humble person never feels like they know it all. They feel like they sit higher or wise than anyone.  They never sit in judgment.

It amazes me how so many of us think we are all that and look down on others. Sitting in judgment of others is hazardous as it really does keep you in a place where you think no one can touch you.  When you are judgmental you are not open-minded and thus not receptive to new ideas.  You are also not empathetic or appreciative of other people who may not think and/or act like you do. If you really stop to think about it, God did not use a cookie cutter when he made each of us, so of course we are all very different.  Some of us come from different backgrounds and have different life experiences, some of us have different ethnic backgrounds and different skin tones, some of us have different levels of education and different gifts that we have to offer the world.  It is this place of not being able to accept others creeps in.   Yes as an African American woman, when I think of prejudice I think of someone who usually has a negative attitude toward members of a certain group. However prejudice really is based on one’s in ability to accept someone that is different.  It is this rejection of difference, this disapproval that makes for a stereotyped belief or viewpoint, and then leads to discrimination against those that are differentIf ya don’t understand what I mean, think of the civil rights movement and the discrimination that was placed on us as a people, just because we were different.  Not because we were not as smart or not as wealthy, different based on our skin color.

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?  Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” – Matthew 7:1-5

You may be saying, but I am not prejudice…but really you are any time you sit in judgment of anyone that is not like you.  Any time you lump a group of folks together who may not be like you.  To live with a meek spirit, a gentle disposition and a humble heart, we must come to a place that you accept others just as they are no matter how different they are.  Even a co-workers, you best friends or your mate you will find areas you have in common and some you don’t.  It is the celebration and the appreciation of both areas that makes for a great relationship while at the same time allowing you to expand your mind and your life experience as you learn from different perspectives and various ways of thought.  It is when you find yourself in a place of difference that you must be willing to talk things out and be open minded to the other person perspective.  It is the inability to be open p to difference that prejudice then begins to develop.  If ya know what I mean!!

Our goal with this week’s blog is for each of us to make an effort not to sit in judgment which also means not talking about folks behind their backs. Hmmmm Ummm  that is judgment too. As when are bust whispering about folks you are also showing dominance, like you think you are better, so stop for a second when you are ready to say hmmm ummm what is wrong with her or him and check on YOU!  Let’s all learn to be humble, check our ego and no judge others.  After all we live in a world where everyone is different with different ideas, perspective and insight and when you judge someone’s differences what you are really doing is saying that you are better, your perspective is more significant, or you have the power to have the last say. To be more humble, practice learning to be open to different points of view, let others ideas play out without judgment.   As you do, you will not only learn to live with a humble heart,  you will also open yourself up to appreciate and learn from people, places or things that are different than you.

“Talent is God given, Be humble.  Fame is man give, Be grateful.  Conceit is self-given. Be careful.” John Wooden

“He who is humble is confident and wise.  He who brags is insecure and lacking.” – Lisa Edomondson

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Gustay Jung

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”  Mother Theresa




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