Ohhhh…..You in Trouble!!!!

3 11 2010

As each of us focuses on making “A String of Pearls” and we look at the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) there are 9 pearls that we will focus on cultivating and growing in 2010.  (See our Theme for 2010 tab above for more information on all 9) Here we start our look at our last Pearl  #9 – SELF CONTROL

When I hear those 3 words it takes me back to memories of when I was little and one of my friends or cousins would yell out “Ohhh…..You in Trouble” because of something I had done that I knew better than to do.   Back then I did not understand why my parents seemed to like to punish me or not let me get away with something! ANYTHING!!!!  I had no idea then that getting punished for my bad behavior was not because my parents like to punish me.  NO it was not about the punishment at all!  Matter of fact, now that I am an adult I know it was just has hard for them to punish little crying and feeling sorry Nicole as it was for me to receive the punishment.  However when they punished me it was for my own good as they were trying to teach me right from wrong.

You see the discipline we receive as a child is one of the biggest gifts our parents can give to us. Why?  Because it helps us begin to understand what behaviors are OK and which are not. This happens at the same time that we are learning who we are and how we fit into this world and it helps us carry those rules, manners and standards of behavior with us into our adult lives.  As we grow older we take those values from lessons learned in our youth with us.  For when a child lives in a world without discipline they find it hard as an adult to use self control or exercise any type of standard for behavior.  They have no gauge of how to or not to react in any given situation.  These are usually the folks you see spiraling out of control as adults as they have no locus of control.   If you don’t know what I mean, think about this, the folks that don’t know how to humble themselves when it comes to dealing with their boss at work and seem to always lose their jobs because of it.  Or how about the folks that don’t know how to set boundaries for themselves and can’t maintain relationships and/or are hard to get along with.   You all have seen grown folks who don’t know how to set limits for themselves.  They are always late.  They may dress inappropriately.  They are sexually promiscuous and hop from man to man.  They do all kinds of things because they have never had anyone put limits on them and therefore they find it hard to put limits on themselves.  They don’t know when to quit or when enough is enough.

Yes this is why discipline is so important as a child as it leads us to learn how to exercise self control as an adult.  It is the seed that is planted in you as a child which forces you to do something as an adult that is the right thing to do or to do what you may not want to do and it is that ONE ingredients that makes folks successful.   Think of how much discipline and self control it takes to be;

Barack Obama


Tyra Banks

Beyonce Knowles

Condoleezza Rice

T.D. Jakes   (or your pastor for that matter!!)

Donald Trump

Ursula Burns, the President of XEROX  (the first Fortune 500 company to be headed by a black woman)

Just to name a few……

They must stay focuses even when they don’t feel like it; they must work hard even when they don’t feel like it.  They each know that each action they take has a consequence and that is the same for each of us!!  Ladies it’s time for us to go back to that Ohhh…you in trouble place and recapture some discipline! Or if we grew up in a house without it, to design some parameters for ourselves.   We will explore Self Control over the next weeks but for now think about this…what is the one thing you know you should not be doing but you do it anyway?  Or the one thing that you need to do, that you don’t do? 

 “Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability” – Roy L. Smith

“Discipline is the bridge between goals & accomplishments.” – Jim Rohn

“He that cannot obey, cannot command.” – Benjamin Franklin

“Effective leadership is putting first things first.  Effective management is disciplie, carrying it out.” – Stephen R. Covey




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