Let’s Talk About Sex

5 05 2011

One of my favorite songs back in the day was “Let’s Talk about Sex” by Salt & Pepa.    This song came out in 1991 and  talks about safe sex, the positive and negative sides of sex and the censorship that sex had around that time in American mainstream media.  I mostly remember this song because it was also the year that HIV/AIDS became a household word.   Why do I bring all of this up as we look at becoming the Proverbs 31 woman? 

“Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you…” -I Corinthians 6: 19a

This is a bible verse many of us heard growing up when it comes to sex.  I bring it up now because the Proverbs 31 woman takes care of her body, her temple and keeping sex sacred and special is an even further need especially as AIDS is running ramped in the African American community.  Why are we as African American women, a population with the greatest health disparities?   How can we take more control of our total well being?  The first step is by getting informed about it.  This is why I even brought up this song by Salt & Pepa, this is exactly why I believe they wrote their song.  Check this out from Chapter 3 of my book Define Your Own Way – According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, African American women are disproportionately represented in the area of sexually transmitted diseases. Two out of three women who make up new cases of HIV are African American.  In fact, AIDS is the leading cause of death among African American women ages 25-40. High rates of STDs, including chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis are a problem as well.  Even further, African American women are less likely to receive health care for many diseases, and when we do, we are more likely to receive it after the disease has progressed significantly. 

Knowing this, it really was cutting edge when Salt & Pepa wrote that song in 1991 because sex is a difficult topic for some African American women to talk about.  Which may be why so many of us are suffering from unhealthy sexual attitudes and engage in unhealthy sexual practices and we are dying ladies!  We must talk about making better decisions about our sexuality if we are going to be empowered to make healthier life choices.  The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services has developed the ABCs of STDs (sexually transmitted disease). Putting these into practice can help keep you safe and healthy:

  1. A is for Abstinence – Refraining from engaging in sex of any kind (vaginal, anal or oral sex) is the only 100% effective way to avoid getting an STD.
  2. B stands for Be faithful – Being in a sexual relationship with only one partner who is free of an STD and who is also faithful to you, limits the chance of infections.
  3. C is for Condoms – If you are having sex, use a latex condom. Latex condoms have been proven to reduce the risk of HIV and other STDS, but only if they are used correctly and consistently every time you have sex.

 It’s time for us to take power over our sexuality and behold our bodies as temples and be selective with who and what we allow in our temple.  Ladies….let’s talk about sex!

See Salt & Pepa’s Let’s Talk About Sex Video by going to  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydrtF45-y-g&feature=related




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