Keeping the Kids in Check

28 07 2011

The most important part of any party, or running a household for that matter, is what and how you teach your children.  You see the most teachable moments for a child are not from what we say but from what we do.  Now I myself am not a mother but I have been working with teens for over 17 years. What baffles many of the teens that come to talk to me is how their mom or dad may tell them to do one thing, but they themselves do something all together different.  So we must be mindful to take the time to train our children, spend time with our children and live by example for our children.  For a virtuous woman…

“Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her” – Proverbs 31:28

Her children call her blessed because they see how hard she works, they see how wonderful she treats people, they see how she makes sure to take care of the household (cooking, cleaning etc….-even if she does not do it, she supervises to get it done).  She teaches her children how to be a woman running thangs while she also gives love and support to her family.  What does this have to do with keeping your kids in check?  You’d be surprised to hear the number of parents that let their kids do whatever they want.  Instead of the parents running the house, the kids rule as they say what is and is not to be.  However what I have learned is kids want disciple, they want bounders and perimeters and they definitely need them.  After all if they don’t get them as youth, how do they understand and function within the rules that are set for them in college, how about in corporate America.  How are they to understand appropriate boundaries in relationships?  So keeping the kids in check is teaching them that actions have consequences as our actions in front of our children also have consequences for their own ability to become successful adults.  Yes this blog even applies to you if you don’t have kids, after all it does take a village and somebodies child IS a part of your life!   So just like you are a hostess with the moistest with all the other guest at the party or in your life, don’t leave out the children around you.  They too equally need your attention, awareness, consideration and love.

Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability – Roy Smith




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