Making a Happy Home

4 08 2011

Over the last few weeks we have looked at all the aspects of throwing a House Warming Party.  At the end of the day, the purpose of a house warming party is really to have all of your closest friends and family over to celebrate and enjoy your new home.  What good is one day of festivities if you do not have that happy, celebratory feeling extend beyond just the party and make your house a happy home?  So while we have talked about how to be a hostess with a moistest and discussed the kids, we have got to take a moment to talk about your mate.  After all if you and your mate do not get along, it can make even the most beautiful house a miserable one.

 She does him good and not evil, all the days of her life – Proverbs 31: 12

The mate you chose to be your partner in life is someone who should stick by you just as the vows you take say for better or worse, richer and poorer and you must be willing to do the same. So just as you do him good, he should equally be good to  you.  He is your friend and partner through it all! If you are single, I suggest you pick your mate based on what I call the partnership principles.  There are four ingredients necessary to selecting a mate based on the partnership principles they are: (1) love, honor and respect; (2) commitment; (3) celebrating likeness and appreciating differences; and (4) three lives.  (To read more about each of these partnership principles, check out the Who is On Your Team Chapter in my book Define Your Own Way –   Yes I must do a shameless plug …..LOL… . 

The point I am making here is basically love is not simply a feeling; it is a choice! It is something you must decide to do and to give every day.   That is how you do him good and not evil, all the days of  your life and he should give that equally to you.   You must show love in the way that you act and react to one another at home when you are together as well when you are out and about on your own without your mate.  When you love someone you are making a commitment to be there through thick and thin, to not love by condition but to love despite the condition.  Love starts with us. In order to love our mates, we must first love ourselves and be willing to give that same love unconditionally.  So how do you make a happy home?  You remember to be friends first, you build a relationship with what I call the partnership principles and you make a decision to be and give love in all you do.

Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.- Nicholas Sparks

Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale… Love loves; this is its nature. – Howard Thurman

 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves – Romans 12:10




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