Let Your Work Speak For You

1 09 2011

One of the things that folks do that gets under my skin is brag!  I absolutely cannot stand when people go on and on about themselves. Boasting about what they have done and showing off about who they know.  It seems like so many people feel like they have to advertise or sell themselves these days. I can see if you are at a job interview but folks are doing this at dinner parties, at luncheons, at social events or get together at folks homes.  What I believe it all boils down to is that we are all so busy trying to fit into the “RIGHT” circle, you know THE clique, that we will do whatever we have to, to get in with the IN crowd.  So many of us are not firmly planted in who we are that we have this need to fit in.  However I believe if you are meant to be in a certain group of people you will naturally belong.  You don’t have to make yourself fit into anywhere or anything.  We should all allow people to love us just as we are, unique and different.  After all God didn’t use a cookie cutter to make us.  So my desire is that we each can focus on being the person that God created is to be.   So just as

 Man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the Heart – 1 Samuel 16:7

You see God is not impressed by what we have done and who we know.  He wants to know your heart and that is definitely who the Proverbs 31 woman is.  

 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates. – Proverbs 31:31

The Proverbs 31 woman is not worried about looking good, she is concerned with getting done what she needs to get done and all that comes to her, comes because she is a hard worker. If you think about it,  people honor less about what you say and more about how who you are and what you do.  As my mother sued to say ‘actions speak louder than words.”  So if that is the case, than we should all allow our actions to speak for us!    Sure I know that everyone wants to be liked.  The difference is when you have confidence in who you are, then you know that if you did not get accepted in any clique, club or organization that it simply means that, that group of people did not align with who you are and you don’t let that deflate your ego.  After all, those that boast and brag isn’t that what they are looking for, a puffed up ego that will help them to feel better about who they are?  However that feeling is only temporary.  On top of that no one really wants to be bothered with folks that talk about themselves all the time so you end up not belonging to that group anyway.  Simply because you talked yourself up TOO much!!!! 

Let’s all determine to stop the need to brag and not allow how we feel about ourselves should to be controlled by other people. YOU should DEFINE who you are and how you feel about your own work, your own person, your own being.  So instead of you having to brag, a confident woman allows her work to speak for itself.  She does not even have to say a word!  Yes her actions do speak louder than words.  That is what I call the humble persons brag…or should I swag as all that they are is right out there in front of them for ALL to see.  

 “Bragging actually dilutes the positive feelings you receive from an accomplishment or something you are proud of. To make matters worse, the more you try to prove yourself, the more others will avoid you, talk behind your back about your insecure need to brag, and perhaps even resent you.” Richard Carlson

“He who is humble is confident and wise. He who brags is insecure and lacking.” ~Lisa Edmondson

Do you wish men to speak well of you? Then never speak well of yourself.” -Blaise Pascal




One response

1 09 2011
Darrylon "Nickie" Evans

I agree!!! Your actions will speak for you. You’ll find that others will brag on you before you brag on yourself. No one likes a show off anyway!!!

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